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I got married about six months ago, and my wife is wonderful in every way. Well, except that she doesn’t golf. Worse, she seems to have some resistance to the idea, as she thinks it’s something rich old people do while wearing funny clothes. She’s young (28) and strong (5′7", 140 lbs) and was a pretty good athlete in highschool, and it’s possible she might even like it if she got started in the right way. I’m thinking of getting her a set of clubs and maybe a package of lessons. There’s a community college here that offers them for groups of women. I did manage to teach her to drive a standard transmission without too much difficulty, but I’m not sure it’s the best approach here. I don’t want there to be friction because of the amount of golf I play. What I’d like is for her to play enough to see the beauty of the game, so she’d love it as much as I do. Ideas?
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She’s young (28) and strong (5′7", 140 lbs)
Save the marriage, and teach her to caddy.
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I got married about six months ago, and my wife is wonderful in every way. Well, except that she doesn’t golf. Worse, she seems to have some resistance to the idea, as she thinks it’s something rich old people do while wearing funny clothes. She’s young (28) and strong (5′7", 140 lbs) and was a pretty good athlete in highschool, and it’s possible she might even like it if she got started in the right way. I’m thinking of getting her a set of clubs and maybe a package of lessons. There’s a community college here that offers them for groups of women. I did manage to teach her to drive a standard transmission without too much difficulty, but I’m not sure it’s the best approach here. I don’t want there to be friction because of the amount of golf I play. What I’d like is for her to play enough to see the beauty of the game, so she’d love it as much as I do. Ideas?
I think that is a marvelous idea. You might want to get her some used clubs to start with, perhaps a 5w, 5iron, 7iron, 9iron putter. Once she has taken more of an interest and developed after the lessons, then have her fitted for a decent set. Certainly lessons at the local CC with other women will make her learning environment comfortable, and hopefully a good experience. She can always continue on if the college offers more advanced group classes, plus individual lessons. My wife has no interest in playing golf whatsoever, but that is fine – she tried it once and didn’t think it was for her. We came to the agreement that she wouldn’t play golf and I wouldn’t play with her sewing machine!!!! — David RSG Roll Call http://rec-sport-golf.com/members?rollcall=sneddond email: dsneddon AT cogeco DOT ca
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I got married about six months ago, and my wife is wonderful in every way. Well, except that she doesn’t golf. Worse, she seems to have some resistance to the idea, as she thinks it’s something rich old people do while wearing funny clothes. She’s young (28) and strong (5′7", 140 lbs) and was a pretty good athlete in highschool, and it’s possible she might even like it if she got started in the right way. I’m thinking of getting her a set of clubs and maybe a package of lessons. There’s a community college here that offers them for groups of women. I did manage to teach her to drive a standard transmission without too much difficulty, but I’m not sure it’s the best approach here. I don’t want there to be friction because of the amount of golf I play. What I’d like is for her to play enough to see the beauty of the game, so she’d love it as much as I do. Ideas?
If you can coach her to the point where she impacts a golf ball fairly solidly once out of 10 whacks, she will be hooked. That thrill is unique and is THE principal reason the game is so seductive. With lessons or SOMEthing… probably your own smarts, provided you can keep it simple… Worth a try? GH
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I got married about six months ago, and my wife is wonderful in every way. Well, except that she doesn’t golf. Worse, she seems to have some resistance to the idea, as she thinks it’s something rich old people do while wearing funny clothes.
No dearie, that is called the Indian Princess meets the Captain of the Bluecoats.
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says… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -I got married about six months ago, and my wife is wonderful in every way. Well, except that she doesn’t golf. Worse, she seems to have some resistance to the idea, as she thinks it’s something rich old people do while wearing funny clothes. She’s young (28) and strong (5′7", 140 lbs) and was a pretty good athlete in highschool, and it’s possible she might even like it if she got started in the right way. I’m thinking of getting her a set of clubs and maybe a package of lessons. There’s a community college here that offers them for groups of women. I did manage to teach her to drive a standard transmission without too much difficulty, but I’m not sure it’s the best approach here. I don’t want there to be friction because of the amount of golf I play. What I’d like is for her to play enough to see the beauty of the game, so she’d love it as much as I do. Ideas?
Been there, done that. When I got married my wife told me that golf was a wimp sport. She had absolutely no interest in it at all. I made no attempt to get her to play. I just went and played when I had the opportunity. I didn’t overdo it, but I was not going to quit playing. One day I’m chipping balls in the back yard and she steps out on the deck and announces that she wants to learn to play golf. I’m like "WFT????" She said she decided that there were worse things than spending a Sunday afternoon outside in the fresh air with her husband. That was a few years ago. Now she’s played in three RSG events, so miracles can happen. So he’s my advice: 1. Let her see how much you love the game 2. You can bring up that Sunday afternoon in the fresh air idea, but don’t push hard. She’s got to decide she wants to play herself. 3. Whatever you do, DO NOT TRY AND TEACH HER YOURSELF. Get her some lessons right off the bat. 4. If she goes for it, insist that she do some driving range duty before she sets foot on a course and the first time you take her to a course pick a time when it’s least crowded. If you put her in a situation the first time out when she’s rushed and gets half the course backed up behind her, she’s not going to be having any fun and won’t be inclined to try again. 5. NEVER, EVER, give her tips or swing advice unless she asks for it, and then only address her specific questions. I’ve seen more than one well meaning husband turn his wife off of golf because he couldn’t keep his mouth shut and had to give swing advice after every swing she makes. I don’t know what it is that makes 90% of husbands think that they’re Butch Harmon as soon as their wife picks up a club, but it’s asking for trouble. HTH and sorry for the rambling Kenny — Kenny Stultz – Troll and SPAM intolerant RSG Rollcall: http://rec-sport-golf.com/members/?rollcall=stultzk "Golf is the only sport where a precise knowledge of the Rules can earn one a reputation for poor sportsmanship"
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That was a few years ago. Now she’s played in three RSG events, so miracles can happen.
Kenny, has your season ended ? Who is on winter firewood duty ? — http://www.rec-sport-golf.com/members/?rollcall=hayesd Troll Intolerant: http://rec-sport-golf.com/newsgroup/philosophy.html Q: When is 500 less than 182 ? A: http://rec-sport-golf.com/pompousimpact/
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I got married about six months ago, and my wife is wonderful in every way. Well, except that she doesn’t golf. Worse, she seems to have some resistance to the idea, as she thinks it’s something rich old people do while wearing funny clothes. She’s young (28) and strong (5′7", 140 lbs) and was a pretty good athlete in highschool, and it’s possible she might even like it if she got started in the right way. I’m thinking of getting her a set of clubs and maybe a package of lessons. There’s a community college here that offers them for groups of women. I did manage to teach her to drive a standard transmission without too much difficulty, but I’m not sure it’s the best approach here. I don’t want there to be friction because of the amount of golf I play. What I’d like is for her to play enough to see the beauty of the game, so she’d love it as much as I do. Ideas?
Well, since this is almost me (I won’t say which one…) I would offer a few things for you….. 1. When in doubt, tell her straight out that you would love for her to go out golfing with you one time to see if this would be something she would enjoy. Offering a "trade" of time would possibly benefit, like doing something you might not really like but would do so to spend some quality time.